~This post is in collaboration with PinkBlush, but all opinions are my own.~
We are in the trenches of the newborn stage aka The Fourth Trimester. Hadley does not sleep 24/7 like she did those first couple days, but we are also not in 100% routine mode either (close!). My maternity clothes don’t work, but I also can’t rock my striped shorts from last summer yet either. It’s a state of in between, uncertainty and survival at times!
With this being our second time though, there were a couple tricks we picked up from last time and some new ones this time around as well. I wanted to share some of these in hopes to help other moms entering the newborn stage for the first or maybe second time too. I think we all can help each other as well as learn different things!!
In-between clothes: Those first couple weeks or months for a lot of us are a little frustrating clothes wise. I know there are some of you who sneak back in your skinny jeans the week after but I am NOT one of them! Instead I allow myself grace and a shopping trip and buy myself some flowy shirts and elastic waist bands. I also still have a desire to look CUTE though. So thank you, PinkBlush for that. I am in love with my new shirt from them. It is flowy and not frumpy. Soft and can we talk about that gorgeous blue?! I am totally lovin’ on their style to help me out this summer.
Swaddle: We’re all obsessed with sleep. How much sleep did you get? How much did she get? Does your husband get up too? We are sleeping and here is why: Babies have a startle reflex. They are sleeping so peacefully and then they hear a noise. Their tiny hands instantly reach for the sky as if they’re conducting an imaginary band and, boom!, they wake up. Cue the swaddle. The baby can’t be conducting the band and therefore baby keeps sleeping. We invested and were gifted some NICE swaddles from Solly Baby. They are worth their weight in gold. They are the silkiest material while being super stretchy and ensuring a firm swaddle. Also, Jake is seriously king of the swaddlers. I still am not as good as he is. Needless to say, Hadley has been doing 5-7 hour stretches between feedings at night. #win
Water bottle and snacks: Invest in a nice or a good size water bottle. Nursing can make you crazy thirsty and it is always a good idea to have water with you at all times. I remember with Emmett the second he would start nursing, I would get this insatiable cure for water. This time around it makes me hungry. In the middle of the night when I need to feed Hadley, I find myself grabbing a handful of crackers because I need something to fill my stomach!
Routine (eat,wake,sleep): I mentioned earlier that we are not 100% in a routine yet, but we have been attempting this above routine of Hadley eating, having a period of wake time and then falling asleep. This happens for most of the day aside from the morning when I just can’t drag my butt out of bed just yet. I read a book about babies’ sleep and this is the key. It worked with Emmett and appears to be working with Hadley too.
Time for yourself: I know this is tricky, but it takes a village to raise a child. Have your husband watch the baby for an hour while you run to the library to read, the coffee shop for an actual cup of coffee you can drink, or even the grocery store! And if you’re doing this alone, mama, find a church. Find a group of people who can support you. Because momming is not always easy ❤
Bonus tip: Watch Happiest Baby on the Block. It was a game changer and helped us know how to soothe and get our babies sleeping!!!
What are you tips and tricks for dealing with the first month (and then some) of a newborn’s life? I would love to hear them!