I would be amiss to have a motherhood blog and allow you to think I have it all together. I don’t. Not in the least. I have yelled at my kids. Called my husband to come home early from work. Been on my phone entirely too long other days. Etc. So why in the world do I have a motherhood blog? Because odds are you’re not the perfect mom either and if I was, we would never relate. I’m just here sharing any tips I have found and hoping it can be of some use to you. So here is what I am working through—how to be the mom God has called me to be and 4 hacks for beating a bad mom day.
The good news? You are not going to need this list every day. Think of this list as a reset on those days that are going poorly. I think this list can even be used as a buffer when you feel your temperature rising and it’s only 9 am. I need this list too. So if you find yourself on #4, know I am an email or a DM message away <3
Don’t let the bad choices of the day affect your mood and the rest of the day! If you follow me on Instagram, you know this was the focus on one of my most recent posts. This is the one I struggle with the most because I tend to hold onto that shame and guilt. I have a hard time shaking that bad mom feeling because I lost it with my kid at breakfast. But you guys, ALL MY CHILD WANTS IS A HAPPY MOM. Children are resilient. They forgive and move on so readily–we could probably learn a lesson from them. All they want is their mom to snap out of it and have a good day with them. Holding onto those negative feelings give you no power. Instead they take power over you. I believe it is Satan saying those lies that we should feel shame for how we treated our kids after we have asked for forgiveness. Apologize to God, apologize to your kid and get your attitude back in check! Be a happy mom. Don’t let the 9am mom define the 3pm mom, or even the 10am mom. Your whole day doesn’t need to be a bad mom day.
Take 15 minutes and pray (and maybe put an episode on TV for your kiddos). I understand everyone reading this blog is not necessarily a Christian or even believes in God. But that doesn’t mean this can’t apply to you: take 15 minutes to yourself and take a long deep breath and recenter. For me, as a mom whose dependence is on Jesus’ grace, those fifteen minutes of prayer are allowing me to recenter and focus and remind myself who God has called me to be as I mother my children. An excellent verse to use during this time is “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.” TWO things here: 1) That word “common.” It means, mamas, you and I are not alone! Other moms struggle with handling situations the wrong way, and 2) God WILL help you through this day. Be sure to check out the rest of the verse. (Cor. 10:13)
Go for a drive. I had to do this recently. I was getting mad and I knew it. I knew I needed to stop and being in the house wasn’t helping us. As I gathered my kiddos and we headed to the car I thought, I am still in such a bad mood. Maybe going somewhere is a bad idea. But I pressed on because I didn’t know what else to do. And just like that, within a couple minutes in the car, I felt the steam settling and myself regaining composure. I reminded myself of #1 and we ended up running errands as a happy trio. A drive saves sanity.
Call a friend. This reminds me of the show “Who Wants to be a Millionaire?” But actually, in that show they called for help and you should too. Text, DM, drive to a friend’s house, do what you need to. The saying “it takes a village” is included on a bad mom day.
That’s it, friends. I don’t have all the answers but this is what I do and what helps me. It doesn’t mean I never have a bad mom day. I do. But I also have decided I can’t allow this to be the norm. I need to find ways through this. I love what Allie Casazza says about not just surviving motherhood but thriving in it. That is my end goal. I want to enjoy these days even when they are HARD.
What helps you on days you feel like a bad mom?