Part 1: 12 Secrets for a Lasting Marriage

How do you make your marriage last? How do you save your marriage? What is the secret to a loving marriage?

When you meet a couple who lived out sixty-two years of loving each other to the max, you wonder, “What is their secret?” My grandparents were that, and even after my grandfather’s passing last year, my grandmother continues to show her unending love in the way she speaks of him. My husband’s goal and mine has been to walk in their footsteps since the day my husband met them and said, “I want to be like them. I want to be so in love even when we are gray and old.”

My grandmother has a heart for sharing what made their marriage last–and not only last–but be strong and love-filled the entirety of it. She sat down with me and shared her heart. What I give you is part one of her “12 secrets for a lasting marriage.”


12 secrets for a lasting marriage, love life, waves and lilacs

1. Let all the “small stuff” go!  Most differences of opinion are not significant enough to address.  But if you feel strongly about something, then it does need to be discussed. (Addressed in next point) A funny story my grandmother tells begins with my grandfather saying, “I have something important to tell you. Sit down.” This was very out of character for him. My grandmother says she couldn’t fathom what he had to tell her and was worried she had done something drastically wrong. My grandfather looked at her very seriously and said, “I do not like the way you put cookies in the cookie jar.” He proceeded to explain he liked a certain number of cookies in the jar at a time and was adamant that the cookies would go stale if done another way. While my grandmother did not agree with his reasoning, or this being a huge issue, she decided to relinquish power of the cookie jar over to him.

2.  Wait to talk about major issues. The important thing about major issues would be to wait until the “right” time to calmly and patiently talk it out. When my grandparents had a major difference of opinion, God gave them the wisdom for how to settle the issue.

3. Think before you speak. If upset or annoyed about something, THINK before you speak! Words can never be taken back.  Memories of hurtful words will be remembered for a long time.

4. Give 100%. This applies to BOTH individuals. Some people believe that if they each give 50%, it will total 100%. This is incorrect thinking. Give 100% of yourself, each of you. Give, receive, give, receive. The husband and wife both need to try to do what blesses the other — back and forth, back and forth.


5. Express gratitude to one another. Say “thank you” frequently. Say it for the big things. Say it for the little things. Say it for cleaning the kitchen. Say it for running an errand. Say it for dinner being cooked. Say it for everything.

6. Acknowledge communication differences. Acknowledging reality of the differences in male/female basic communication desires, my grandmother says she tried to keep conversations of general nature to a short duration. She knew my grandfather didn’t really care about all the tiny details. Figure out what those differences are in your marriage and choose to communicate in effective ways. This is not to say that you should not share your heart or have long meaningful conversations–you should!


Stay tuned for part two! ❤

xo, bethany rose

2017: The Growing Moments

This is a continuation of last post’s 2017 highlights. However, I really did not want to call this the “2017 low-lights reel.” Instead God is working on my attitude this week in general, so why not put it to work here too?

2017 stretched us for the better though it definitely did not feel like that during. Here are [3] of those “growing moments”:

  1. Hadley’s Birth. Yes, this makes the top in both categories.  I really don’t want to drone on and on about this because I’ve talked about it before here extensively.  But going from a mom of 1 to a mom of 2 is NO JOKE. Everyone says these are the “motherhood trenches” but I feel like I needed a lot more than just that phrase to understand the intensity of  what life with 2 would be like. I love them. Fiercely. But man, has life changed all over again. At around 5 months I felt like we were finally getting into a groove but by no means does that mean it is easy! We still work hard at this everyday just trying to survive! So thankful to have my husband to do this alongside of!!IMG_0014.jpg
  2. My grandfather’s heaven birthday, August 4. My grandparents were/are grandparents to everyone. I have had the storybook set of them and have always been so beyond proud to say they are “mine.” So the end of his life hits our family hard. His love for God was undeniable and I know this separation is only temporary because of it. He is the first person I  have lost that was significantly close to me. I am so thankful for God’s grace as he prepared me and worked inside me to be more accepting of his death this past summer. I have always feared death and loss like this. But God has been so good and blessed our family throughout this time.  “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted…” Psalm 34:18
  3. Jake’s job. Gosh, I don’t know where to start. First off the company he quit last April is the company that landed us here in western PA FIVE years ago. It helped pay off my student loans. It paid for our trips. It allowed me to be a stay-at-home-mom. It was a good job financially. But right after we bought our house (in March) and I was about to hit my third trimester of pregnancy, the job went south. I don’t need to go into it. But let me just say it took every ounce of me to not write an e-mail or make a phone call with rage seething out of me to his bosses. The way Jake got treated at the end was wrong and we knew it was time to quit. But, again, God is so good. Because right when that was happening there was a job opening up at a very amazing company here. He applied and was working there about a month later. The timing was amazing for many, many reasons. But it has allowed me to be a stay-at-home-mom still and has given my husband the opportunity to thrive in more of his talents and less work stress. He loves his new job so, so much!IMG_3092.JPG

So here is to 2018! And enough about the personal posts! What do you guys want to see on the blog this year!? Let me know below!

xo, bethany rose

Entering a New Year with Purpose (prayer calendar for your child)

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Being a parent means a lot of different things. It means being chef, playmate, ‘healer’ of booboos, listener and teacher. We knowingly teach our children daily, and often times, unknowingly as well (as I am learning quite well lately as my son repeats the last word of every sentence he hears!).

This is why when I was approached by Bear and Squirrel  to share this prayer calendar, I knew I had to do it. Ever since Emmett has been a baby we have made it a point to read to him the Bible and pray with him every single day. I know he did not understand at first, and honestly, he probably still does not get it 100%. But my son knows that we pray to Jesus, we believe in Jesus and Jesus is part of our lives each day.


This calendar–I am SO excited about– because it is a prayer guide for parents on how to pray and encourage their children to pray. Each day has a specific prayer that relates with a Bible verse. The prayers are repeated every months (same prayer for January 1st, February 1st. etc.) So you are essentially focusing on 30 +/- prayers a month to pray with your child(ren).

Here is an example of one day: Day 17. Pray that they would walk in God’s truth and fear the Lord. Psalm 86:11


Then there is a section dedicated to having a prayer buddy each month. You can include their photo, ways to encourage them and specific prayer requests to write down. This part might be a little young for my 2.5 year old, but I am thinking about doing it anyway and putting up photos of family members on it for him.

The calendar has 12 beautiful photos featuring the adventures of Bear + Squirrel. They are so colorful and fun. There is a fun fact included as well. I won’t spoil all the photos on here, so you’ll just have to take my word on it!


If you are interested in buying this, and especially if you want it in time for Christmas, order it today!!! Here is a link to it: Bear + Squirrel Prayer Calendar 2018. 

xo, bethany rose