The Beautiful Life of Grandpa Schmidt

His voice boomed across the living room every single time I made my way down the long hallway and into his presence. “Bethany Rose! How are you?” His words were continuously filled with authenticity and genuine interest in that question. He always knew how to make the conversation 100% about me without me ever feeling selfish or that I had forgotten to turn it around to him at some point.

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His summers were spent for twenty five years camping with either me or my younger siblings and cousin. He was always ready for something new. Whether it was boogie boarding in the ocean at the age of eighty or learning to ski at seventy, quite possibly beating me to the end of the mountain first.

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His hands created carpenter masterpieces and he thought into the future with each piece. Even though my son is only two, there can be found in our home a cross that has the name “Jesus” engraved throughout it. This cross is a known piece of art amongst our extended family. One was made for each grandchild and then his first great-grandson. They were or are to be given on each one’s wedding day. He knew that he would not be around when my son got married and so he made his early on and gave it to us.

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His love for his wife and family was paramount to most love I’ve witnessed on earth. There was gentleness and kindness. Patience and strength. A quietness that calmed the room and made people choose their words wisely. For with his age came more wisdom; wisdom that was evident of time communing with God.

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He and his wife prayed as though their lives depended on it, because for them, they did. Notebooks and photos, devotionals and scripture can be found as they prayed over people’s lives. I can see the work of God in my life because of these prayers and know my life is richer for it.

His home was home to many. There was rarely a holiday that it was just our family gathering together. It was common to meet people we did not know for the first time on Thanksgiving or Christmas. His home was a haven and people recognized the solace as soon as they entered.

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His music was his ministry and he played at churches across his section of Pennsylvania. He liked to pick the instruments you don’t hear much: the tuba and accordion. His musical talent has been carried down by most of us. I think in a sense he is the musical patriarch of our family.

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His trains were his way of entertaining and sharing what he loved. It was tradition to head down to his “train room” after we had piled our plates high with food and come out of our food comas. We would all gather on one side of the room as he pushed buttons and turned knobs and made his train display come to life. He would show us new parts of his train village as he proudly displayed his work of art. I remember when he decided that he was too old for it though and I stood in an empty room where his trains used to run. There was an emptiness in that space where I thought something belonged.

And I suppose that’s how we feel today. We are standing in an empty space where you used to be, looking around thinking that you still belong here.

But that’s not the end of this story, is it? I always imagine you looking down on us, smiling and saying softly, “Don’t cry for me. I am where I belong. If only you could see.”

Happy Birthday, Grandpa. We love you always. “Gone but never forgotten.”

xo, bethany rose

Dear Husband (from your Stay-at-Home-Wife)

~This post is in collaboration with PinkBlush, but all opinions are my own.~

Dear Husband (from your Stay-at-Home-Wife),

I write this as you drive ten hours and work thirteen today. I appreciate you and hope you understand the extent of that statement.

I know we made this decision together when we chose for me to stay at home. There was never an argument, only understanding and support from day one. I think it was something we both wanted equally.  I have always been thankful for the fact that we are on the same page more often than not.

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You have never made me feel guilty for bringing in little to no money over the last three years.  It has only ever been me who ever felt upset or saddened as an empty box appeared in our budget line for my portion of the monthly income.  You never blinked an eye and were just grateful that I could be home.

On that note, you have never asked me to start making money even when our budget dropped so low and we knew something needed to change. Instead you went out and found ways to make more money for our little family. I never doubt warmth in our home or full cabinets of food.

You work hard to provide and still come home at the end of the day and play with the kids and help put them to bed. Neither of our days ever really end. Sometimes I feel bad, if I am being honest, when both kids nap at the same time and I just relax. I know this isn’t what happens in the middle of your day. And yet, whenever I’ve admitted this, you just say, “Good for you. You need to rest.”

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I love the way our son’s face lights up when you walk through the door or call us in the middle of the day. Our daughter might not like everyone, but she sure loves you. I know they feel the same warmth and love that I do.

I know I have complained and let phrases slip from my mouth that I would like to take back.  Those are the days you have found me at my worst. Those words are never an indication of ungratefulness for what you do. It is my selfishness talking about my day. I really don’t wish these days away. Perhaps some seasons ( 😉 ) but you really have given me the best gift.

You have given me a life of learning and teaching and service. You’ve unknowingly opened up my life to so many opportunities I never knew existed or dreamed about.

And lastly, when I told you this summer I wanted to start working from home, you made sure it was the right decision and then jumped all in. When I ask you to watch the kids because I have a photo shoot or a writing deadline, you are there.

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My prayer for our children is that our son becomes a father like you and our daughter knows what a true, loving man is because of your example.

So, Husband of this Stay-at-Home-Sometimes-Working-Wife-and-Mom, I love you and thank you.  You are my teammate for life.

Love, Me

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How beautiful is this Black Floral Crochet Trim Bell Sleeve Wrap Top from PinkBlush? I am probably going to wear it out too much this holiday season, but I absolutely don’t care! It’s just the perfect shirt for holiday gatherings, date nights and photo shoots with my husband! ❤

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xo, bethany rose

Inside Our Home: shared children’s bedroom ft. UrbanWalls

Before Hadley was born Jake and I had decided that whether we ended up with two boys or one of each, they would share a room no matter what. We had just bought a three bedroom house and really wanted to keep the third room open for company (we have enough!) and an office.

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After Hadley’s arrival I started to envision how I wanted their room to look. It was a little tricky because so many rooms are girl or boy focused or just extremely gender neutral. I started toying around with the modern black and white room. I loved the look of it and felt it worked for either gender and could incorporate specific boy and girl things. But we eventually nixed that idea because neither of us wanted to commit to only having black and white items. And let’s face it, I love color.

So one day, I was probably scrolling instagram, when I came across UrbanWalls. I was in love instantly. The decals and creativity that flowed from that site made me want to jump up and finish their room right then and there. The initial decals to really draw me in were the ones I ended up going with: Watercolor polka dots. I am a sucker for polka dots and water colors , put them together, and I was sold.

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We decided to go with the blue and coral ones and thus the “watercolor room” was birthed. We chose to make the coral and blue dots merge together so that the room was not divided by a “girl” side and a “boy” side. I want it to be their room and no dividing line of sides. (PSA: They now have LILAC watercolor polka dots. It’s probably a good thing these weren’t available when I was looking or I never would have been able to decide!)

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We finally finished everything over the weekend with the exception of a couple more frames on the walls. We might eventually add some shelves as well but for now, it is done. I.LOVE.IT. I am so happy with how this turned out. We still left a little bit of “travel theme” in the nursery since there were some things from Emmett’s old nursery that just worked and I still love.  I think by default more of the room has a blue feel to it. By default I mean, Emmett “had” the room first so there was more boy things going on in there and I just naturally love and am drawn to it. However, I don’t think Hadley will know or care for another year or two 😉

 

wall decals: UrbanWalls watercolor polka dots in coral and blue

twin sheets: Finding Dory twin sheet set

crib sheets: Feather print by LifeTree

crib (similar style): Storkcraft Pacific 4-in-1 Convertible Crib

homemade blanket: crocheted waves blanket by CCJknitandcrochet

paper flowers (made by a close friend but you can check out the pattern) : World Map paper flowers pattern

xo, bethany rose

Hadley Rose: month four

Hadley, Hadley, Hadley! You keep us on our toes and we love you for it.

 

I am writing this as though the last couple days (since Hadley officially turned 4 months) have not happened (because they have thrown us for a loop….waking up every two hours at the beginning of the week to sleeping last night TEN/ELEVEN hours).

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Month four has been the month where I finally feel like we are starting to get into a routine. Hadley naps more consistently lending itself to me having more 1 on 1 time with Emmett and having more time to clean and work from my computer.

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Hadley LOVES talking, laughing, looking at you and being held. A little extrovert!? She can also be a little holy terror when she is tired and you are not helping her fall asleep. For this girl to sleep, she basically just wants a blanket over her face. She will fall asleep in your arms, the swing or a bassinet/crib as long as a little lovey is covering her face. She still fights sleep at times though. She is  also still being swaddled or in the Merlin Sleep suit. Any tips on getting a baby who LOVES to be swaddled transitioned out of that? She still has not rolled over (though I find her on her side, so I know it is bound to happen soon).

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Some Hadley Stats

weight: 12 lbs 4 oz according to our home scale (her 4 months check up isn’t for another week)

height: *to be added*

diapers: size 2

clothing: She is in a mix of 0-3 and 3-6. She is seriously our little peanut after Emmett!

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What Hadley is up to:

-found her feet It is so cute to see her pull them up and play with them.

-more alert Every month she becomes more alert and people are constantly commenting on it.

-talking,talking,talking! I literally just copied and pasted this from last month because she is just noisy! 😀

-smiling and laughing Again, same as last month. Her laugh though is getting deeper and more of a belly laugh. It is so freakin’ adorable!

-wants attention Still copying and pasting here. She can be crying and then you look at her and she stops. Literally, she just wants you looking at her or to be held. This is not to say she doesn’t self entertain as well.

-loves her play gym. It’s so cute: the second you put her under there either her legs start going because she is so excited to be under it or she starts crying because she knows you are leaving her!

-sleeping 9 hour stretches This is about the same.

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Hadley Photo dump:

 

xo, bethany rose

Apple Picking 2017

~All PinkBlush product was given in exchange for my honest review.~

I don’t know what better way to bring in October than with apple picking! Our friends came into town this weekend and we headed out to get our daily fall dose of apples and pictures.

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We did this last year with the same friends and I love the idea of starting traditions with friends. Our kids all had so much fun together. It was even more fun this year with Emmett because he could walk and even “kind of” climb the ladder. If you remember, last fall he was still working through physical therapy and had only been walking for about a month before we went.

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We go to the same orchard every year and have been since we moved here. They spray their apples with organic pesticides and I am pretty sure the owners are Christian. It is actually in his backyard which is pretty cool! I think the place is growing in popularity though which makes me happy for the owners but a little sad for us.

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So what does one wear to the apple orchard? Well I know the plaid and the puffy vests are totally in and I love that look, but I opted for cozy and chill instead. I am pretty sure that’s where I stand with most clothes though >.< I love my new shirt from PinkBlush and picked it out specifically for this fall. It’s extremely comfortable and is a great shirt for hanging out around the house or doing fun day trips with my family!

xo, bethany rose