It is my privilege to share with you my grandmother’s remaining six secrets to a lasting and love filled marriage. She and my grandfather weathered the storms together and were happily married for 62 years. If you missed the first six secrets
, be sure to check them out!
7. Say “please.” Prefix requests (big and little) with the word “please.”
8. Realize the importance of daily quality time together. My grandmother will be the first to admit that times have changed since she said “I do.” In our present society women work much more than they did in 1955. She says that every night she would try to give my grandfather quality time. She would socialize and talk on the phone during the day, but when my grandfather got home, it was their time together. Her aim with this last point is to stress the importance of spending time together.
9. Pray together daily.
My grandparents prayed together about 5 mornings a week right after breakfast. My grandfather would read a devotional and scripture and they both would pray. She says they would hold hands during this time
and I think that is the sweetest picture!
10. Surprise one another with acts of love. Whether it be small or large, express your affection though unexpected acts of love. They can be verbal or physical, just something your spouse is not expecting! This brings joy to the giver and receiver. My grandmother recounts that my grandfather loved coconut (and she couldn’t stand it). She would often buy him coconut treats when she saw them in the store.
11.Don’t bring up past resolved issues. Yes, you read that correctly. If any past issue has been resolved and had closure, don’t bring it up again (unless unusual circumstances make it essential). Doing this can bring up old hurt, anger and even create new problems.
12. Make God the center. If you know my grandparents, you are probably wondering why this is last. Well, it is honestly the most important and I wanted to leave this as the final thought as you walk away and take this wisdom with you. Making God the center and the foundation of a marriage is the key. You can do numbers 1-11 but without number 12, you are missing out.
I hope these words stick with you. Let’s be a a generation of husbands and wives fighting for our marriages and changing the statistics of divorce in this nation.
What is a marriage secret that has been passed on to you?
~This post may contain affiliate links but all opinions are my own. I only promote what I love here. ~
Being a parent means a lot of different things. It means being chef, playmate, ‘healer’ of booboos, listener and teacher. We knowingly teach our children daily, and often times, unknowingly as well (as I am learning quite well lately as my son repeats the last word of every sentence he hears!).
This is why when I was approached by Bear and Squirrel to share this prayer calendar, I knew I had to do it. Ever since Emmett has been a baby we have made it a point to read to him the Bible and pray with him every single day. I know he did not understand at first, and honestly, he probably still does not get it 100%. But my son knows that we pray to Jesus, we believe in Jesus and Jesus is part of our lives each day.
This calendar–I am SO excited about– because it is a prayer guide for parents on how to pray and encourage their children to pray. Each day has a specific prayer that relates with a Bible verse. The prayers are repeated every months (same prayer for January 1st, February 1st. etc.) So you are essentially focusing on 30 +/- prayers a month to pray with your child(ren).
Here is an example of one day: Day 17. Pray that they would walk in God’s truth and fear the Lord. Psalm 86:11
Then there is a section dedicated to having a prayer buddy each month. You can include their photo, ways to encourage them and specific prayer requests to write down. This part might be a little young for my 2.5 year old, but I am thinking about doing it anyway and putting up photos of family members on it for him.
The calendar has 12 beautiful photos featuring the adventures of Bear + Squirrel. They are so colorful and fun. There is a fun fact included as well. I won’t spoil all the photos on here, so you’ll just have to take my word on it!
If you are interested in buying this, and especially if you want it in time for Christmas, order it today!!! Here is a link to it: Bear + Squirrel Prayer Calendar 2018.