It is my privilege to share with you my grandmother’s remaining six secrets to a lasting and love filled marriage. She and my grandfather weathered the storms together and were happily married for 62 years. If you missed the first six secrets, be sure to check them out to have all 12 secrets to a successful marriage!
7. Say “please.” Prefix requests (big and little) with the word “please.”
8. Realize the importance of daily quality time together. My grandmother will be the first to admit that times have changed since she said “I do.” In our present society women work much more than they did in 1955. She says that every night she would try to give my grandfather quality time. She would socialize and talk on the phone during the day, but when my grandfather got home, it was their time together. Her aim with this last point is to stress the importance of spending time together.
9. Pray together daily. My grandparents prayed together about 5 mornings a week right after breakfast. My grandfather would read a devotional and scripture and they both would pray. She says they would hold hands during this time and I think that is the sweetest picture!
10. Surprise one another with acts of love. Whether it be small or large, express your affection though unexpected acts of love. They can be verbal or physical, just something your spouse is not expecting! This brings joy to the giver and receiver. My grandmother recounts that my grandfather loved coconut (and she couldn’t stand it). She would often buy him coconut treats when she saw them in the store.
11.Don’t bring up past resolved issues. Yes, you read that correctly. If any past issue has been resolved and had closure, don’t bring it up again (unless unusual circumstances make it essential). Doing this can bring up old hurt, anger and even create new problems.
12. Make God the center. If you know my grandparents, you are probably wondering why this is last. Well, it is honestly the most important and I wanted to leave this as the final thought as you walk away and take this wisdom with you. Making God the center and the foundation of a marriage is the key. You can do numbers 1-11 but without number 12, you are missing out.
I hope these words stick with you. Let’s be a a generation of husbands and wives fighting for our marriages and changing the statistics of divorce in this nation.
What is a marriage secret that has been passed on to you?