2017: The Growing Moments

This is a continuation of last post’s 2017 highlights. However, I really did not want to call this the “2017 low-lights reel.” Instead God is working on my attitude this week in general, so why not put it to work here too?

2017 stretched us for the better though it definitely did not feel like that during. Here are [3] of those “growing moments”:

  1. Hadley’s Birth. Yes, this makes the top in both categories.  I really don’t want to drone on and on about this because I’ve talked about it before here extensively.  But going from a mom of 1 to a mom of 2 is NO JOKE. Everyone says these are the “motherhood trenches” but I feel like I needed a lot more than just that phrase to understand the intensity of  what life with 2 would be like. I love them. Fiercely. But man, has life changed all over again. At around 5 months I felt like we were finally getting into a groove but by no means does that mean it is easy! We still work hard at this everyday just trying to survive! So thankful to have my husband to do this alongside of!!IMG_0014.jpg
  2. My grandfather’s heaven birthday, August 4. My grandparents were/are grandparents to everyone. I have had the storybook set of them and have always been so beyond proud to say they are “mine.” So the end of his life hits our family hard. His love for God was undeniable and I know this separation is only temporary because of it. He is the first person I  have lost that was significantly close to me. I am so thankful for God’s grace as he prepared me and worked inside me to be more accepting of his death this past summer. I have always feared death and loss like this. But God has been so good and blessed our family throughout this time.  “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted…” Psalm 34:18
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  3. Jake’s job. Gosh, I don’t know where to start. First off the company he quit last April is the company that landed us here in western PA FIVE years ago. It helped pay off my student loans. It paid for our trips. It allowed me to be a stay-at-home-mom. It was a good job financially. But right after we bought our house (in March) and I was about to hit my third trimester of pregnancy, the job went south. I don’t need to go into it. But let me just say it took every ounce of me to not write an e-mail or make a phone call with rage seething out of me to his bosses. The way Jake got treated at the end was wrong and we knew it was time to quit. But, again, God is so good. Because right when that was happening there was a job opening up at a very amazing company here. He applied and was working there about a month later. The timing was amazing for many, many reasons. But it has allowed me to be a stay-at-home-mom still and has given my husband the opportunity to thrive in more of his talents and less work stress. He loves his new job so, so much!IMG_3092.JPG

So here is to 2018! And enough about the personal posts! What do you guys want to see on the blog this year!? Let me know below!

xo, bethany rose

HIGHLIGHTS OF 2017 : Top Five

2017 was a monumental year for our family but one I am grateful to put behind us. While it brought the birth of my sweet baby girl, it also was the final year for my grandfather. There were so many emotions and roller coasters Jake and I navigated together. It brought us closer together, stressed the importance of teamwork even more than we knew already and allowed us to experience the beginning of dreams we did not know existed.

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number 1. The birth of Hadley Rose. I was able to experience the natural birth I had hoped for with Emmett. Her birth was healing for me as I realized (due to it) that I had experienced some trauma after Emmett’s birth. Though shifting into life as a family of 4 was challenging (and still is often times!), we learned this year to slow down and take this year for what it is: a season.

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number 2. We bought our first home! What not many people knew a year ago is that Jake and I were contemplating leaving western PA. We were given the opportunity to move back to New England and really wanted to (mainly because of family). But it was through praying and researching for the potential move that we felt God calling us to stay put. We spent ONE day with a realtor here and bought the fourth house that we saw. This house is a haven and most importantly the one we call home. (We moved in March.)

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number 3.  Hawaii vacation. We had the awesome opportunity to vacation on Oahu with Jake’s parents. It was such a fun week complete with Hawaiian food, hiking, swimming and just being a family. What a beautiful island and place to be!

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number 4. We started to pursue new dreams. I’ve said it before and I will say it again, becoming a stay at home mom has granted me more opportunities and ways to pursue my dreams…sometimes dreams I did not even know I had. So what does this look like? For me it was photography and writing. I started my own small photography business taking family photos. My Instagram exploded (in my terms) from 500 followers last November to 3000 in less than a year. The real clincher was when I started making money off of some posts. Jake and I then decided to really give this Instagram thing a “go.” (Look out 2018!) For Jake he continued making his paint cans but also continued making drink openers. He also has another really, really huge idea but we are keeping that one a secret currently.

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number 5. Two week vacation. Since before Jake and I said “I Do” we have never had a full two weeks off together. Even though I taught for a couple years and had my summers free, Jake still had to work. We were blessed with an awesome week long honeymoon and several other week long vacations, but this year topped it time wise. Jake had off a total of 16 days in a row….perks of him working for a college and getting Christmas week off! We spent it mainly in NJ and NH visiting a ton of family and some we hardly ever get the chance to see. It was so fun and Emmett had a blast with all his cousins. He was without want of a playmate for 2 weeks. Thankfully since being home he seems to be doing all right overall ❤

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2017 was a huge year for us, but it was also very trying. I think I will share those moments next time! Until then, See ya 2017!

Hello 2018.

xo, bethany rose

Hadley Rose: month six

Half a year has passed since our beautiful daughter enter this world! I am always in awe of how time passes so quickly and the fact we remain in awe of this.

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This month has been good overall for Hadley. She has had some of her first bites of “food” and is not quite sure about it. She made a face at banana which made me slightly nervous. Like, what baby does not like banana?! But she seemed to enjoy banana mixed with apple and other things. I’ve chosen to only start her off with fruits and veggies and later on we will incorporate different hings in. I just want to do whatever I can right now to avoid her having any sensitivities like Emmett does/did.

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She got moved back to the office in a pack n play to sleep when both kiddos got sick just before Thanksgiving.  We tried putting her back in the crib once and she was not having it…..so our office is still being taken up by a little baby!

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Some Hadley Stats

weight: 13 lbs and 2 oz….she is tiny and in the 5th percentile.

height: 24.5″

diapers: size 2

clothing: She is in a mix of 0-3 and 3-6. Well…..nothing has changed……Her Christmas dress is 6-9 months but the bloomers are huge 😦

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What Hadley is up to:

-she is sitting! It is so cute to watch. It happened to quickly too!

-drama llama. This is what I call her at least once a day probably. She is a typical girl through and though!

-rolling. She definitely prefers to be on her back still though and I’ll find her rolling over to be on it.

-sleeps all night, but wakes for the pacifier several times a night. HELP!?

-trying some pureed foods!

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Hadley Photo Dump:

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Postpartum Hair Loss

Ok, I just need to be real with you all for a second.

I think my baby is the cutest thing since April the Giraffe had her baby. She (sometimes) smells like roses and sunshine and when she is sleeping it is the most peaceful thing ever. I love when my son holds her and looks at me with his humongous, all-cheeks, proud smile.

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What I don’t love are the things that happen to me postpartum. Everyone knows those first few weeks after having a baby include bleeding, ouchies, a stomach that no amount of pizza can fix and you may as well start dragging around a water fountain if you plan to nurse.

But when all of that is said and done and you think life is on the uphill…your hair starts falling out.

Say whaaat?!

Those prenatals that gave you those glorious locks just aren’t doing the tricks anymore. Instead your estrogen level drops taking a ton of hair along with it. When I had Emmett this happened and I took some biotin and eventually my hair was back to normal. This time though it feels like it is rougher. The amount of hair that I can lose is intense. 

I became slightly desperate to help my hair and put to rest the balding spots (they were for real happening). I wanted to do this naturally for my hair and not harm it in any way. In my ‘quest for knowledge (and to defeat this dragon of a problem)’ I came across three resources that I wanted to share.

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1.Biotin. I mentioned earlier that I started taking this after giving birth to Emmett. I decided to do so again because I think it may have helped the hair loss stop a little sooner. If you decide to take Biotin, know that it is measured in micrograms. You can take a tablet anywhere from around 30 mcg to 10,000 (not sure if it goes higher). If you do a quick google search you will hear different arguments for how much should be taken while breastfeeding.

2. Collagen Peptides. If you follow me on instagram you may have seen my post earlier this week about Vital Proteins. Collagen is an extremely beneficial and natural protein. It helps strengthen hair, nails, bones and even helps your skin. You can read all the science and awesomeness of it here. As for me, I’ve been taking this in my smoothies and apple cider 1 or 2 times a day.

3. Essential Oil Spray. I wish I could give the person who came up with this credit, but I ran across it on instagram I think! Anyways, I took a tiny spray bottle, filled it with water and added 10 drops of the following: lavender, rosemary and cedarwood. I will say that some websites say don’t let lavender near your babies. I feel comfortable using this spray though because I literally spray maybe 3 squirts in the morning and at night directly to my scalp. It is do diluted that, for me personally, I am not concerned.

Ok, so you obviously want to know if this all worked, right? Well, it did. it did not all work immediately. It took a little bit of time. But in a couple of weeks my balding spots were already starting to fill in and this week less hair was falling out of my head in the shower!

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Which of the 3 worked best? Well, I am not sure. I used all 3 simultaneously because I was a bit desperate.

Did enough time pass that your hair just stopped falling out on its own? Possibly. But I know I had nothing to lose taking these three things. If anything, the collagen and biotin are making my nails strong and my skin smoother (less breakouts, people!!!). And the essential oil spray is making my hair smell lovely.

xo, bethany rose

An essay at Mother.ly

Before Hadley was born I wrote an essay about the end of pregnancy. I submitted it online and then kind of forgot about it to be honest. Well a couple weeks ago I got a message that  Mother.ly had accepted it and decided to publish it. I was so excited!!!

Then this week I got notice that it had officially gone live on their site. I wanted to share it with y’all. Thank you for reading here and I hope you enjoy it there.

“It will only be so much longer that my son runs over to me to kiss and hug my belly, unknowingly kissing and hugging his little sibling from the outside world….People will stop genuinely asking how I am feeling….Seats will not be miraculously opened anymore for the woman with a huge belly…It will not be forever that my husband whispers his love to an unseen child, telling them about the world they will soon enter.”

Read the full essay here, “There’s no way to speed up this pregnancy, so perhaps I should slow down.

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xo, bethany rose

the L family | frick park

In our group of people here in western PA, there is another couple with the names, Jake and Bethany. We have fun with it and call each other “the other Jake and Bethany.”

Well when they found out they were expecting a baby boy this year the wait was on to see if their baby would have a name beginning with the letter “E” just to confuse everyone more (our son is named Emmett). Instead they chose Isaac and the name couldn’t fit him any better!

They are such a sweet family and having them as my first family to shoot this fall helped put my nerves at ease. Isaac was so happy and smiled for pictures for nearly an hour and we had perfect weather!

 

xo, bethany rose

Hadley Rose: month four

Hadley, Hadley, Hadley! You keep us on our toes and we love you for it.

 

I am writing this as though the last couple days (since Hadley officially turned 4 months) have not happened (because they have thrown us for a loop….waking up every two hours at the beginning of the week to sleeping last night TEN/ELEVEN hours).

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Month four has been the month where I finally feel like we are starting to get into a routine. Hadley naps more consistently lending itself to me having more 1 on 1 time with Emmett and having more time to clean and work from my computer.

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Hadley LOVES talking, laughing, looking at you and being held. A little extrovert!? She can also be a little holy terror when she is tired and you are not helping her fall asleep. For this girl to sleep, she basically just wants a blanket over her face. She will fall asleep in your arms, the swing or a bassinet/crib as long as a little lovey is covering her face. She still fights sleep at times though. She is  also still being swaddled or in the Merlin Sleep suit. Any tips on getting a baby who LOVES to be swaddled transitioned out of that? She still has not rolled over (though I find her on her side, so I know it is bound to happen soon).

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Some Hadley Stats

weight: 12 lbs 4 oz according to our home scale (her 4 months check up isn’t for another week)

height: *to be added*

diapers: size 2

clothing: She is in a mix of 0-3 and 3-6. She is seriously our little peanut after Emmett!

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What Hadley is up to:

-found her feet It is so cute to see her pull them up and play with them.

-more alert Every month she becomes more alert and people are constantly commenting on it.

-talking,talking,talking! I literally just copied and pasted this from last month because she is just noisy! 😀

-smiling and laughing Again, same as last month. Her laugh though is getting deeper and more of a belly laugh. It is so freakin’ adorable!

-wants attention Still copying and pasting here. She can be crying and then you look at her and she stops. Literally, she just wants you looking at her or to be held. This is not to say she doesn’t self entertain as well.

-loves her play gym. It’s so cute: the second you put her under there either her legs start going because she is so excited to be under it or she starts crying because she knows you are leaving her!

-sleeping 9 hour stretches This is about the same.

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Hadley Photo dump:

 

xo, bethany rose