Making Life Manageable After (that crazy decision to have) 2 Kids

I feel like if I had a series, this would probably be PART 2. But sometimes you just have to write where you are. And I know this can help some people because you are going to be here soon.

Jake and I were just talking today about how it finally feels like, after SEVEN months, we are in a groove with our TWO children. I mentioned a couple months ago that life with two finally felt manageable (and that was true!) but now I feel like we finally reentering a season that tickles the edge of NORMAL again. A new normal.


Hadley is about as predictable as a baby can be at this point. Emmett it hardcore into the toddler years with potty training, verbal sentences and a state of independence (which is sometimes welcome and sometimes not.)

It’s a state of beginning to plan life in between naps, bedtimes, and going out. Of course it is the dead of winter here in western pa, so going out looks different, but if it was summer I would bet you we’d be out doing 5ks right now!

How did we get here? Why did it take seven months? Is there really life after kiddos?

Or you might be saying, Girl, I see you in real life. You do not have it all together!

Well, that’s true. 😀 We definitely don’t have it ALL together! But I’d like to think we have a couple things 😉  …a couple things that I DID NOT KNOW SEVEN MONTHS AGO!

Here it is, for all its worth.

transition from one to two children and making the most of motherhood as a parent of two children

Joint sleeping times.  These are a must.  I am an introvert to a fault. What I did not realize was how much this played into my time at home as a mother. I need a solid hour to myself daily. It energizes me and gives me what I need as a mom. My children are both now on a routine that lends itself to nap time everyday from about 1 to 3  (Hadley another in the morning) and bedtime from about 7:30-7:30. If you ever wondered where I find time to edit and write, it is there. Don’t call me then! Kidding…..kind of..not actually.  We established the start of a routine with both kids early on. Hadley was a little harder because we didn’t pull the pacifier till this month. Now she sleeps her hard earned 12 hours and we partake in several of them as well.

Your spouse is your team mate for life.  I cannot imagine parenting alone. Jake is the cheese to my macaroni and I rely on him so much. We trade off watching the kids so we can both get our side jobs done. We divide bedtime sometimes. I cook, he cleans. I grocery shop, he fixes my car. He dresses the kids on Sunday mornings, I make sure the diaper bag is packed. If your husband is not your team mate, parenting is going to be harder than it needs to be and parenting is already HARD. Get matching jerseys and get to work. You made these kids together, now raise them together. ( I applaud single moms. I really do not know how you ladies do it. You are seriously heroes.)


Get yourself ready before your kids. OK, I am saying this because it is true but because I also need to get better at it. We have literally just started sleeping through the night without any interruptions.  And now that sleep is here, I think it is time I do this. If your child is NOT sleeping through the night yet, only some pointers from this will apply to you, because sleep is MOST important.  If you can wake up before the kids, have devotions, a cup of coffee, exercise, etc. JUST ONE OF THOSE THINGS AT LEAST, your day can start off so much better and you will feel like you can take on the day. Sometimes though, just getting out of my pajamas and putting my contacts in is all I have time for and this usually happens after breakfast (#sahmtruth). But it makes me feel human and sets my mind up right for the day.

enjoy the time you have one-on-one. After getting into a solid routine of Hadley’s nap times, I sometimes use her first nap of the day to spend individual time with Emmett. We might bake, do a craft, or just read a book. But that time with him is important. (I don’t spend the entire nap time with him necessarily but part of it. There is still a house to clean and things to be done!) Often Hadley wakes up before Emmett does on the second nap, and I can have some time alone with her. Sometimes it is spent playing with her, but I also will just stick her in the bumbo or high chair while I cook dinner or read while she play. Even though I am not giving her undivided attention it is still just our time together.


Time heals all insanity. I know this is not what everyone wants to hear. We have a love hate relationships with time. We know that if time plays its part, things eventually happen. But we have to wait. Patience. Those first couple weeks after Hadley was born, as great as I felt physically, there was such a lack of normalcy. My time with Emmett was divided. My Netflix nights with Jake had a third party.  Grocery shopping became a nightmare. My nursing cover became an extension of my daily wardrobe. But this too passed. All of a sudden I found myself being able to put Emmett to bed again. I found he and I reading books alone during the day. I take Hadley out and no feeding times happen till we’re home again. Jake and I now watch TV uninterrupted after a JOINT bedtime (see above). Time heals all insanity.

I share these as my opinions and things that work for me. I share them in hopes that maybe it will help other moms who are braving the unknown of multiple children. I still feel like such a newbie at this and internally wonder if I really have much to offer. But I write because I know where we have come from. It felt like the trenches for a while and still often does. But there are days that glimmer and rise above the rest and these tips have helped us get to those days!

xo, bethany rose

Dear Husband (from your Stay-at-Home-Wife)

~This post is in collaboration with PinkBlush, but all opinions are my own.~

Dear Husband (from your Stay-at-Home-Wife),

I write this as you drive ten hours and work thirteen today. I appreciate you and hope you understand the extent of that statement.

I know we made this decision together when we chose for me to stay at home. There was never an argument, only understanding and support from day one. I think it was something we both wanted equally.  I have always been thankful for the fact that we are on the same page more often than not.


You have never made me feel guilty for bringing in little to no money over the last three years.  It has only ever been me who ever felt upset or saddened as an empty box appeared in our budget line for my portion of the monthly income.  You never blinked an eye and were just grateful that I could be home.

On that note, you have never asked me to start making money even when our budget dropped so low and we knew something needed to change. Instead you went out and found ways to make more money for our little family. I never doubt warmth in our home or full cabinets of food.

You work hard to provide and still come home at the end of the day and play with the kids and help put them to bed. Neither of our days ever really end. Sometimes I feel bad, if I am being honest, when both kids nap at the same time and I just relax. I know this isn’t what happens in the middle of your day. And yet, whenever I’ve admitted this, you just say, “Good for you. You need to rest.”


I love the way our son’s face lights up when you walk through the door or call us in the middle of the day. Our daughter might not like everyone, but she sure loves you. I know they feel the same warmth and love that I do.

I know I have complained and let phrases slip from my mouth that I would like to take back.  Those are the days you have found me at my worst. Those words are never an indication of ungratefulness for what you do. It is my selfishness talking about my day. I really don’t wish these days away. Perhaps some seasons ( 😉 ) but you really have given me the best gift.

You have given me a life of learning and teaching and service. You’ve unknowingly opened up my life to so many opportunities I never knew existed or dreamed about.

And lastly, when I told you this summer I wanted to start working from home, you made sure it was the right decision and then jumped all in. When I ask you to watch the kids because I have a photo shoot or a writing deadline, you are there.


My prayer for our children is that our son becomes a father like you and our daughter knows what a true, loving man is because of your example.

So, Husband of this Stay-at-Home-Sometimes-Working-Wife-and-Mom, I love you and thank you.  You are my teammate for life.

Love, Me


How beautiful is this Black Floral Crochet Trim Bell Sleeve Wrap Top from PinkBlush? I am probably going to wear it out too much this holiday season, but I absolutely don’t care! It’s just the perfect shirt for holiday gatherings, date nights and photo shoots with my husband! ❤


xo, bethany rose

Hadley Rose: month three

Second children definitely get the short end of the social media platform at times! Hadley turned 3 months on the 16th…10 days ago!

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I’ve decided she is an easy baby if you know her. If you don’t, she can be challenging. She has certain things she “needs” to sleep and if she is tired and can’t fall asleep, you have one unhappy + mad baby sometimes! Other times she falls asleep right away…you just never know what it’ll be! I feel like I need to write a tiny book on “Knowing Hadley” for anyone who watches her.

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We are out of the “witching hour” *phew* and it has been easier to get her down at night. She is sleeping AMAZINGLY. Two nights ago she ate at 7, went to bed at 8, got the pacifier reinserted a couple times during the night, but did not eat again util 7 the following morning!!!  Last night she went down around 7:30 and woke at 5 to eat. I can’t remember if  I had to wake up to give her the pacifier before that. We have continued an “eat,wake,sleep” routine. We did this with Emmett too and it has helped tremendously with sleep!!!

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Some Hadley Stats

weight: No clue.

height: Probably similar to last month. I don’t check these things unless we have an appointment! >.<

diapers: size 1, but after this pack I plan to transfer to 2’s

clothing: We are still using our 0-3 outfits for the most part, but I think we will be in 3-6 fairly soon.

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What Hadley is up to


-smiling and laughing

-wants attention 

-does not care who it holding her until it is time to sleep

-sleeping 9 hour stretches

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Hadley Photo Dump

xo, bethany rose

P.S. Taking these photos is not always a walk in the park with Emmett around–haha– but there are some other fun shots then too and Jake always helps!