Dear Husband (from your Teammate for Life)

~This post is in collaboration with PinkBlush, but all opinions are my own.~

I wrote my first letter to my husband last fall. I loved hearing all the positive responses to it and decided to do another one. My hope is this one is an encouragement to you as well! This letter’s theme is: marriage is teamwork.

Dear Husband (from your Teammate for Life),

Marriage is teamwork and parenting together (dress from with pink blush) from www.wavesandlilacs.com

 

I’ve never been a sports fan and never played on any teams. I did a lot of things solo. My hobbies included: reading, playing piano, and figure skating….solo.  In fact, I think I probably would have prided myself on a lot of independence before you “put a ring on it.”  Since being married though, I’ve come to learn the value and appreciate the importance of being on a team. Specifically, a team with you.

But it hasn’t always been this easy, has it? As I recall I was still pretty immature in the communication department in those early years of marriage (Not that seven is SO high or anything, but you know). I wanted you to “just know” what was going on in my mind. Like, why should I have to tell you those things? You were my husband and were supposed to know me inside and out in approximately ten days according to Disney.

So that first time we ended up being in a fight married and I sulked in the bedroom alone, you had absolutely no idea why. I look back and have no clue why I ever made you guess. It’s so much easier to just say, “Babe, I’m pretty mad at you for putting the toilet paper on right side up” or “The laundry basket is where it has always been…make sure your socks make it there.” 😉

So when we decided to have children…two of them to be exact…I don’t think I ever realized how much parenthood would throw us more together and I don’t say that lightly either. I realize parenthood throws a lot of people the opposite way: apart. And I can see how that can happen. I am so thankful we chose to be thrown together more though, instead–onto each other’s team, hence making us one team.

Marriage is teamwork and parenting together (dress from with pink blush) from www.wavesandlilacs.com

We don’t have the time anymore to dilly dally about problems. We’ve learned to fight effectively, efficiently and quickly.  To say exactly what is wrong and compromise or agree. We’ve learned to make up quickly and well without brushing things under the rug. I’ve learned to say exactly what is bothering me, and you’ve learned to ask me.

I know it’s not perfect and some days are harder than others. But I treasure the fact that our good days pile up much higher. It’s about giving and sharing what we need. It’s about sacrifice. The giving up. The receiving.

I think we’ve also learned to dream each other’s dreams. We want the other to win. Because when you do, I do and when I do, you do. What’s better than cheering the other one on towards their purpose in life? I think of the verse in the Bible that says, Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thess. 5:11 Marriage has given us a lifetime to attempt this verse.

Parenting alongside you is about realizing we are on the same team. Today. Tomorrow. For as long as we breathe the same air.

We should get jerseys.

Love, Me

~~~

How beautiful is this Peach Striped Colorblock Floral Maxi Dress from PinkBlush? I wore it for Easter and usually jump out of dresses the second church is over. Not with this one. I stayed in it for the majority of the day and was able to snag a couple of photos (obviously!) thanks to my brother who owns his own photography business.

Marriage is teamwork and parenting together (dress from with pink blush) from www.wavesandlilacs.com

waves and lilacs

28 Comments

  1. alia

    April 11, 2018 at 8:22 pm

    I love this! Such a sweet idea. I was a figure skater once upon a time too!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 11, 2018 at 10:06 pm

      I wish I had stuck with it!! And thank you!

      <3 Bethany

  2. Carole Schmidt

    April 11, 2018 at 9:57 pm

    Surely sounds like a long and happy trail you two will have, with ” love til the end of time”, as Grandpa said.

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 11, 2018 at 10:07 pm

      I miss him everyday <3

  3. Justine @ Little Dove

    April 12, 2018 at 2:16 am

    I love this letter and I love that gorgeous dress on you! The two prints work so well together!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 12, 2018 at 10:15 pm

      I love the stripes and floral combo!

      <3 Bethany

  4. Ashley Newell

    April 12, 2018 at 2:19 am

    What a great letter! And your outfit is super cute!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 12, 2018 at 10:15 pm

      Thank you Ashley!

      <3 Bethany

  5. Sandra Black

    April 12, 2018 at 7:38 am

    Nice,. We are married 40 years and there are some things I wish I had kept n doing for memories now and somethings I wish I had started doing long ago.

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 12, 2018 at 10:15 pm

      Congratulations on 40 years!That is awesome.

      <3 Bethany

  6. Vanessa

    April 12, 2018 at 6:41 pm

    Beautiful letter! Love your outfit

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 12, 2018 at 10:14 pm

      Thank you!

      <3 Bethany

  7. Shani | Sunshine & Munchkins

    April 13, 2018 at 11:23 am

    I love your letter and I love the dress! Marriage is definitely all about teamwork and realizing that we are in this together. I remember having some of the same feelings when my husband and I were first married and it took some time to work through them, but the fact is that we did and we are better and happier for it.

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 15, 2018 at 2:10 pm

      I love hearing the success stories!

      <3 Bethany

  8. Arin

    April 16, 2018 at 7:47 pm

    I couldn’t love this post more!! Wish I saw more like this!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 17, 2018 at 10:41 pm

      You are so sweet, Arin!

      xo Bethany

  9. Joceline Raad

    April 17, 2018 at 4:18 pm

    This is such a sweet post dedication to your husband! It’s definitely something you both can look back on whenever you need. ❤️

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 25, 2018 at 2:36 pm

      Yes, thank you!

      xo Bethany

  10. Eva

    April 17, 2018 at 4:49 pm

    Love this post! Honest and true and important.

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 17, 2018 at 10:41 pm

      Thanks so much, Eva!

      xo Bethany

  11. Tatiyana

    April 17, 2018 at 5:23 pm

    Aw this is so sweet and true!! I agree parenting has brought us together more than I could imagine and it’s a beautiful thing!!

    Xo
    Tatiyana

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 17, 2018 at 10:40 pm

      I love hearing that!

      xo Bethany

  12. Sarah

    April 17, 2018 at 9:06 pm

    This is beautiful and so spot on! Love the letters.

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 17, 2018 at 10:38 pm

      Thank you so much!

      xo Bethany

  13. Melissa

    April 19, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    I love how honest this is!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 25, 2018 at 2:37 pm

      Thank you Melissa!
      xo Bethany

  14. Stephanie

    April 20, 2018 at 9:51 am

    I love the part about being on the same team today, tomorrow and every day as it’s so very true for us all! Being parents together means we’re doing this together and not against the other. A basic concept idea yet so refreshing to hear how you work hard on making an effort to stick together. Thank you for sharing! And p.s. darling dress!

    1. wavesandlilacs

      April 25, 2018 at 2:38 pm

      Thank you for your encouragement, Stephanie! So true!
      xo Bethany

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