Dear Husband (from your Teammate for Life)
~This post is in collaboration with PinkBlush, but all opinions are my own.~
I wrote my first letter to my husband last fall. I loved hearing all the positive responses to it and decided to do another one. My hope is this one is an encouragement to you as well! This letter’s theme is: marriage is teamwork.
Dear Husband (from your Teammate for Life),
I’ve never been a sports fan and never played on any teams. I did a lot of things solo. My hobbies included: reading, playing piano, and figure skating….solo. In fact, I think I probably would have prided myself on a lot of independence before you “put a ring on it.” Since being married though, I’ve come to learn the value and appreciate the importance of being on a team. Specifically, a team with you.
But it hasn’t always been this easy, has it? As I recall I was still pretty immature in the communication department in those early years of marriage (Not that seven is SO high or anything, but you know). I wanted you to “just know” what was going on in my mind. Like, why should I have to tell you those things? You were my husband and were supposed to know me inside and out in approximately ten days according to Disney.
So that first time we ended up being in a fight married and I sulked in the bedroom alone, you had absolutely no idea why. I look back and have no clue why I ever made you guess. It’s so much easier to just say, “Babe, I’m pretty mad at you for putting the toilet paper on right side up” or “The laundry basket is where it has always been…make sure your socks make it there.” 😉
So when we decided to have children…two of them to be exact…I don’t think I ever realized how much parenthood would throw us more together and I don’t say that lightly either. I realize parenthood throws a lot of people the opposite way: apart. And I can see how that can happen. I am so thankful we chose to be thrown together more though, instead–onto each other’s team, hence making us one team.
We don’t have the time anymore to dilly dally about problems. We’ve learned to fight effectively, efficiently and quickly. To say exactly what is wrong and compromise or agree. We’ve learned to make up quickly and well without brushing things under the rug. I’ve learned to say exactly what is bothering me, and you’ve learned to ask me.
I know it’s not perfect and some days are harder than others. But I treasure the fact that our good days pile up much higher. It’s about giving and sharing what we need. It’s about sacrifice. The giving up. The receiving.
I think we’ve also learned to dream each other’s dreams. We want the other to win. Because when you do, I do and when I do, you do. What’s better than cheering the other one on towards their purpose in life? I think of the verse in the Bible that says, Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thess. 5:11 Marriage has given us a lifetime to attempt this verse.
Parenting alongside you is about realizing we are on the same team. Today. Tomorrow. For as long as we breathe the same air.
We should get jerseys.
How beautiful is this Peach Striped Colorblock Floral Maxi Dress from PinkBlush? I wore it for Easter and usually jump out of dresses the second church is over. Not with this one. I stayed in it for the majority of the day and was able to snag a couple of photos (obviously!) thanks to my brother who owns his own photography business.